I suggest you get a lovely beverage apropos of whatever time of day (or night) you happen to be reading this post. Old Br'er is about to be his long winded self. This looks to be a long one because there is a LOT of backstory and tangential crud that all relates.
And I warn you now that it is possibly the first "Continued on next post" I have ever done.
Does that give you fair waring? Yes, it does. Proceed at your own risk.
Here comes some of the necessary backstory:
I have mentioned before (I think - I am too lazy to go back and check all the prior posts to confirm. And it is probably better to repeat myself since it is unlikely that anyone has read all the past stuff, much less remembers it all. Especially if I don't recall it myself and I WROTE it) that I have a special needs cousin living in a care facility and that The Old Man (Br'er's father) has been named Custodian for him since his father (Pop's brother) passed away. Among other things, this entails regular visits to the facility to check on him and keep him as engaged with family as possible. (He is profoundly mentally challenged). I often accompany Pop on these trips.
Well, he has gotten into finding these old cemeteries, too. I think he likes the idea of knowing something I do not. And he seems to enjoy doing a little clean-up of the smaller ones to help prevent their being lost, destroyed, or forgotten.
Further, he and I have an eerily parallel history with our immediate ancestors. Both of us had 3 out of 4 grandparents die either before we were born or shortly thereafter. And both of us had only one great-grandparent - a great-grandmother - survive into our adulthood but, as both women were less than pleasant, we had little interaction with them. And virtually nothing of family history was passed down. Ancestors simply were not discussed.
As has been repeated to the point of driving people insane, I inherited the family genealogy work and have been expanding the tree to include all the distant relations. Really distant relations. In this case I was looking at the sons (and their descendants) of my 5th Great Grand-father. In general, Pop doesn't care much about the family tree. Unless! Unless, that is, it is presented as a story that makes them real. Knowing where they lived or had land, what they did for a living, anything about them that made the local papers, odd things they did, or details in their will (odd codicils or just the inventory of goods and chattels listed for tax purposes) tweak his interest. And obviously their graves.
All that dithering done now, I can start getting to the meat of this post.
I find a memorial in Find A Grave for a 1st cousin 5x removed in a small family cemetery VERY near the facility where my cousin lives. There are about 14 memorials listed and there are photographs of each one. Large headstones and markers so it is not one of those cases where this is where someone is believed to be buried or known to be buried but is unmarked. The GPS coordinates show it back in the woods. Fortunately it is only about 100 yards off a road (according to the map). There is what looks (on satellite view) a house nearby. So we - the parental units and I - plan to check it out on the next visit to the cousin. Cool.
Until we actually try getting there.
Turns out the property is Posted Private Property - No Trespassing, and is a hunting camp. The road that leads close to the cemetery site is actually a private road. There is a locked gate blocking the entrance. While there is a large billboard like sign with all these notices posted, there is nothing about a name or contact number for the property.
Damn.
Had the cemetery been just past the fence line we probably would have taken the risk and gone under the gate and checked it out. But the location given was somewhere between a quarter and a half mile in. Walking in is NOT an option.
I take a photo of the billboard so I can search for contact data later and we abort the mission.
Back in the Warren, I go into full bore Research Geek mode.
First up I find the site in the county property tax records. Someone has to be paying taxes on the land! Turns out that the property is held by a Family Trust and leased out for hunting. These land trusts are fairly common as a means to reduce taxes and keep the land intact and in the family. I fire off a letter to the trust address explaining that I have a relative in the cemetery, would like to visit it, and asking how we can make that happen. I give my contact details and include an SASE, drop it in the mail and wait.
In the interim I start researching the cemetery and those in it.
Right off the bat I have a mystery. The cemetery name in Find A Grave is listed as Cooper Cemetery #1 (don't go searching for that - I will explain later). But my relative's name is William Locklin Griffith, How did a Griffith (and the only one listed with that name) end up in a Cooper cemetery? Did he or one of his offspring marry a Cooper?
The majority if names in this cemetery are Coopers, but there are a few that are not. Hmmmm. Presumably there is SOME relationship between them.
I start off pushing this cousin's tree looking for that Cooper connection. But there is not one I can find! I do find his father in-law, Archer Norris, listed in the same cemetery. So there are two mysteries, now: Why are these two here?
I can pretty much link all the other burials to the Cooper family. But these two have me puzzled.
And in typical fashion I manage to find an Cooper infant's death certificate that appears to show the child in this cemetery. So I add that memorial and link it to the parents memorials. Good deed accomplished.
After many hours going down the figurative Rabbit Hole and virtually exhausting everything I can accomplish on-line, I put the whole thing aside. The holidays come and go. Weeks pass and I all but cease to even think about this whole mess.
Then my phone rings.
Ordinarily I ignore calls from phone numbers I do not know. I have lost track of the number of calls I have gotten about extending my car warranty (worth noting is that I have a lifetime bumper to bumper warranty from the manufacturer for my car - it doesn't expire!). And as I live in Georgia and this was the run-up to the hotly contested US Senate run-off elections you can appreciate the insane volume of calls from both parties. Some days saw in excess of 15 political robo-calls.
Let's just say these calls make me cranky. VERY cranky. Woe betide the telemarketer that catches me at such moments.
Against my better judgement I answer the call. Good thing I did.
"I have a letter here from you about a cemetery on our land."
Now I have to confess that this threw me for a loop. I was really expecting a letter - or possibly an email - essentially telling me to go pound sand. The last thing I expected was a phone call. I had to really switch mental gears to get back on track.
David introduced himself and explained that there is no cemetery anywhere on their land. He has walked the whole several hundred acre tract many times and there simply isn't a cemetery there. He adds that some 10 or 15 years back two ladies had approached him about this cemetery and he had explained to them that their data was in error.
Rather than telling me to pound sand, he offers to meet with me some time so I can see for myself there is nothing there. He adds that the location would be a really bad place to put a cemetery as it is on a riverbank subject to flooding.
We chat a little longer and he goes on to relate that a local man he hires for odd jobs told him about this cemetery and how he used to maintain it - cleared brush, limbs, etc. - but doesn't any more. When asked why he stopped he explained that he used to be paid by a family member or descendant to do the work. Apparently they died off. When the money stopped, he stopped the work.
Can't exactly blame him.
David went on to relate how he took the handyman and cleaned the site again. It was about a mile from where the graves I was seeking are alleged to be. Sadly he could not recall any of the names on the markers. He gives me very detailed directions to the location and I pull this up on-line as we chat.
Well son-of-a .....
Near the location he has directed me to Find A Grave shows Cooper Cemetery #2. But it has zero memorials. And the satellite images only show trees. There is not a clearly discernable cemetery anywhere near the GPS coordinates for Cooper Cemetery #2.
Oh, yes. To add to the mix, the site is just off a road named, you guessed it, Cooper Rd.
This is all too coincidental. Confirming if there is a cemetery at the location of Cooper Cemetery #2, and if there is, whether the graves there are actually those listed in Cooper Cemetery #1 is a Moral Imperative.
We chat a little longer and he offers to meet up with me some time and take me to where this second cemetery is.
Like I am going to wait long to investigate!
Is that enough backstory and setup for ya?
Fast forward a couple of days and where am I? Yup out in the fecking cold trying to locate this mysterious and mythical Cooper Cemetery #2. We roll up on the location I was given.
No cemetery where I was told it would be. Naturally. We scout the area around where David (remember the phone call?) directed me and can see nothing. There have been some heavy rains over the previous few days so there is as much mud as anything else around. You see, Cooper Rd is unpaved (gravel only) and the logging road is little more than two ruts in the ground. Two ruts that are filled with water turning the red clay into an evil substance that is both slicker than grease and as sticky as any glue. And it will stain all forms of clothing known to modern science.
Caution is the order of the day. Good thing we dressed appropriately (i.e. grubby clothes and mud shoes) and the car has mud mats.
The new plan is to explore up the logging road and see if the cemetery is somewhere past the tree line and hidden from the main road. Two dogs from one of the nearby houses (thankfully very friendly dogs) decide to join us. Unfortunately they are jumpy. And splashing in the mud. Great. One looks like a cross between a Burmese and a Lab. Given a saddle this dog could give rides to small children! Guess which dog thinks it great fun to run up from behind you and slam into your legs.
This is going to be an interesting and challenging excursion.
We tramp up the logging road about 40 or 50 yards. The trees to either side a relatively thin giving a good view some 50-75 feet each way. No cemetery visible. At this point we hit the ubiquitous "Private Property Posted No Trespassing" signs and the locked chain across the road.
I try to not trespass. Especially when it is just TW and myself. So we make our exit back to the car and make one more look around the extended area before leaving. Just as we are about to head for the barn a vehicle approaches us from the opposite direction.
At this point I need to paint a better picture. The road we are on, Cooper Rd, runs East-West and North-South. Precisely where the logging road sits Cooper Rd makes a 90 degree turn. Not a curve or bend, mind you. A hard turn. The two sections are literally perpendicular to each other. It would not be surprising if the two parts were given separate names. If you are travelling East on Cooper Rd then the logging road continues East at the same point where Cooper Rd itself turns North.
At this intersection sit three residences. One on the South side directly on the intersection. The other two face each other a few yards from the turn on the West and East sides of Cooper Rd as it runs North-South.
We are pointing South about to turn West on Cooper Rd when this vehicle approaches us from the West. As Cooper Rd and thus the turn are a little narrow, I pause and wait for him to pass.
But he doesn't pass. He stops along side of us. Not exactly a shocking thing. If you have spent any time in the rural South then you know it is almost a social obligation to check with any stopped vehicle - especially if you can't immediately associate it with anyone local - and inquire if they are having trouble and need help. If nothing else it is a chance to chat and find out who the interloper is!
We roll down our windows and he asks if we are having trouble. Honor has been satisfied. I explain that we are not having trouble but are looking for an old cemetery that is supposed to be around there.
"Oh. That's just over there.", he says while pointing over his shoulder in the general area of the logging road.
I explain that we had looked there as far as the No Trespassing signs and could not see it. And that I did not want to piss anyone off by ignoring their signs.
"Don't worry about those signs. That's my land. The cemetery is about 50 yards past the chain, just on the left of the road. Can't miss it." Famous last words! He goes on to share that there used to be someone who came and cleaned it up from time to time, but they haven't been back for several years.
The pieces fit too perfectly. This has to be the place David directed me to! We thank the gentleman, park, and head back up the muddy logging road.
And here come the dogs again. Great.
We get to the area he directed us to and ... and ... YES! Headstones! Houston, we have a cemetery!
First order of business is to check the Cooper Cemetery #1 graves and see if these are those.
THEY ARE! Hot damn and Double Halleluiah! There are not two cemeteries, just bad data propagated by lazy people....
This is one of those things that drives me crazy. I can understand minor errors. But putting graves in a non-existent cemetery over a mile distant? Graves that you stood next to and took photos of? No excuses. Time for the Special Hell again.
And then it hits me that this means I have more work. I have to submit an update to Find A Grave to merge the two cemeteries and correct the details. Damn. I put that thought aside and set about auditing the cemetery.
Good thing I did. I located two more marked infant graves that have never been recorded before.
But maddeningly there is one memorial I cannot locate. Lafayette B Patton. There is a photo of the headstone in Find A Grave, but I cannot find a trace of it in the cemetery (which is only about 1,500 sqft, possibly not even that large). I search in logical places in the event it has fallen over and been covered with debris in the intervening years, but nothing. I find his daughter, Mary Stephens, headstone. But not his.
Looks like a return trip in the spring is required. We can remove the growing saplings and brush, and do a proper search for Lafayette's marker. In the meantime I am not above asking the person who created the memorial or uploaded the photo if they remember where the grave is in relation to the cemetery overall and any other graves in particular.
Aside from Lafayette we GPS tag all the markers, take a few photos for ourselves, lay plans for the return trek, and, as there is daylight remaining and there is another nearby site I would like to check out, we depart.
Epilogue:
Find A Grave is now corrected. If you want to see the updated, merged, corrected cemetery entry, it is now just
Cooper Cemetery. I am trying to access the book published by the county historical society to see what they have for these graves/cemetery(ies) before I send them notice of my findings. Damned pandemic.
Something that puzzles me and I shall have to research further one day: William Griffeth and his father-in-law, Archer Norris, are (based on Find A Grave) the earliest two interments in the cemetery by decades. William died in 1830 and Archer in 1856. The next burial is a Cooper infant in 1875. I suspect that - if I can locate the property records - William or Archer originally owned the property and it was later acquired by the Coopers. Try as I have, I cannot link either William's or Archer's lines to a Cooper!
This is the grave that started the whole debacle. Once William Locklin Griffeth/Griffith
It may not be apparent in the image, but there is a name and data carved on the stone.
William has arguably the fanciest grave on the site!
The false tomb to the left of the image is William's father-in-law, Archer Norris. The stone in the foreground doesn't have any readable carving (if it ever had anything at all).
I begin to wonder if the tree predated William's burial or not. But it is interesting looking nonetheless.